Reflections on Becoming

My personal blog — thoughts on identity, ownership, and the journey of rewriting your story.

3 Things You Can Learn From Who You Used to Be
September 26, 2026·12 min read
3 Things You Can Learn From Who You Used to Be

If we could represent our past in a single object, it would look like a golden box. Here are three things you can pull from it — in honor of who you used to be.

3 Reasons Why Your Best Days Are Ahead (No Matter How Old You Are)
September 19, 2026·10 min read
3 Reasons Why Your Best Days Are Ahead (No Matter How Old You Are)

God's best is never in the last thing He did — it's always in what's to come. You were designed for continuous improvement, and the fact that you're breathing is the symptom of your next victory.

How to Stop Ruminating — For Good, or at Least for Today
August 7, 2026·9 min read
How to Stop Ruminating — For Good, or at Least for Today

Ruminating thoughts are the little minions that keep you distracted from your Destiny. Here's how to stop the loop — for good, or at least for today.

3 Ways to Love Your Partner Better (or Dare I Say—Save Your Relationship)
July 24, 2026·10 min read
3 Ways to Love Your Partner Better (or Dare I Say—Save Your Relationship)

Three ways to love your partner better — from tailor-made love and the light bulbs of real conversation to the fervent prayer that changes your biology. A blog for couples who adore each other and want to go from awesome to extraordinary.

15 Ways You Know For Absolute Certain You've Found Your Soulmate
May 9, 2026·7 min read
15 Ways You Know For Absolute Certain You've Found Your Soulmate

I used to not believe in soulmates. And then I met Matthew. Reader, I folded like a cheap lawn chair. Here are the 15 things that convinced me — body, brain, and that pesky soul I didn't think I had — that soulmates are real.

The Secret Sauce to Becoming Unstoppable
April 15, 2026·8 min read
The Secret Sauce to Becoming Unstoppable

Here is the secret sauce to becoming hard-core, no-holds-barred, unequivocally disciplined—and ultimately changing your life. It's simple. But it is not easy.

Choosing the Right Kind of Success
January 15, 2026·7 min read
Choosing the Right Kind of Success
I Did My Morning Routine Hungover on Purpose. The Results Shocked Me.
January 7, 2026·7 min read
I Did My Morning Routine Hungover on Purpose. The Results Shocked Me.
How to Enjoy Life While Picking Up Dog Sh*t
December 28, 2025·8 min read
How to Enjoy Life While Picking Up Dog Sh*t
Thank-FULL
December 6, 2025·11 min read
Thank-FULL
Healing Your Inner Child
December 3, 2025·11 min read
Healing Your Inner Child
Who’s Driving This Body?
October 24, 2025·7 min read
Who’s Driving This Body?
7 Things I Wish I Knew 18 Years Ago
September 14, 2025·11 min read
7 Things I Wish I Knew 18 Years Ago
Bumpers & Bliss
September 14, 2025·4 min read
Bumpers & Bliss
Your Brain is Running on Outdated Software — Here’s How to Upgrade
August 18, 2025·13 min read
Your Brain is Running on Outdated Software — Here’s How to Upgrade
How Do You Forgive Yourself?
July 25, 2025·8 min read
How Do You Forgive Yourself?
Does Amazon Sell Peace?
July 11, 2025·7 min read
Does Amazon Sell Peace?
Humans Don't Taste Good Enough To Eat
June 29, 2025·7 min read
Humans Don't Taste Good Enough To Eat
(Not So Obvious) Red Flags
June 13, 2025·9 min read
(Not So Obvious) Red Flags
Birthday Bliss
June 6, 2025·6 min read
Birthday Bliss
What Do You Do After Finding Happiness?
May 30, 2025·6 min read
What Do You Do After Finding Happiness?
How To Deal with Terrible People
May 23, 2025·6 min read
How To Deal with Terrible People
Soul Mate or Ship Mate?
May 12, 2025·7 min read
Soul Mate or Ship Mate?
The Intentionality of Waving Goodbye
April 28, 2025·6 min read
The Intentionality of Waving Goodbye
Life Rainbows
April 18, 2025·5 min read
Life Rainbows
Choosing YOU and Why You Must
March 26, 2025·9 min read
Choosing YOU and Why You Must
You’re Never Gonna Be Jell-O
March 8, 2025·8 min read
You’re Never Gonna Be Jell-O
What’s Trust Got To Do With It?
March 2, 2025·10 min read
What’s Trust Got To Do With It?
Palm Trees and Fog
February 25, 2025·5 min read
Palm Trees and Fog
The Green-eyed Monster: Overcoming Fear in Relationships
February 23, 2025·5 min read
The Green-eyed Monster: Overcoming Fear in Relationships
Eat the Cake First: The Art of Living in the Present While Building the Future
February 21, 2025·5 min read
Eat the Cake First: The Art of Living in the Present While Building the Future
What is Food for Thought?
February 16, 2025·5 min read
What is Food for Thought?
How Do I Know When I’m Healed?
February 8, 2025·5 min read
How Do I Know When I’m Healed?
How Many Times Can You Start Over?
February 2, 2025·3 min read
How Many Times Can You Start Over?
Our Pets Heads Are Falling Off
January 17, 2025·5 min read
Our Pets Heads Are Falling Off
Where’s My Wagon?
January 13, 2025·5 min read
Where’s My Wagon?
Why Do Bad Things Happen To Me?
January 10, 2025·6 min read
Why Do Bad Things Happen To Me?
Hack Your Brain
January 9, 2025·4 min read
Hack Your Brain
The Shoulder Minion
December 29, 2024·4 min read
The Shoulder Minion

Change is frustrating and boring at times. But when is the last time someone sat and watched flower seeds resting in the soil? Choosing to live without something that isn’t serving you doesn’t feel beautiful at first, but you’re watering what will soon be a garden of happiness, peace, and gratitude. You chose yourself and your future over what was holding you back. I know this phrase is cliche and overused, but trust the pr

Hey, iPhone—It’s over.
September 30, 2024·6 min read
Hey, iPhone—It’s over.
Time Difference
January 24, 2024·4 min read
Time Difference
Smoked Salmon?
January 24, 2024·5 min read
Smoked Salmon?
We Got This
January 13, 2024·5 min read
We Got This
Sunkissed
January 2, 2024·4 min read
Sunkissed
All The Little Things
December 28, 2023·5 min read
All The Little Things
Next Stop: San Diego
December 24, 2023·5 min read
Next Stop: San Diego
"These reflections aren't polished essays. They're raw thoughts captured in moments of clarity—offered in the hope that they spark something in you."

— Maria Madison

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